Have you read the Manipulated Man by Esther Vilar? It’s quite a book. This vid gives you a glimpse into Vilar’s view of feminism, women, and men. Worth watching to hear and see her alternative view.. Does anyone know the fellow that made this vid? Very well done.
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Tom, where the hell do you find these videos.. hahaha
I've said the following before in different ways and watching this I realise that: 'where I thought I was free I am anything but' ... I always thought that Mens Rights Activism was for 'straight men'.. but what I've been learning since I encountered my first MRA blog in 2020 (and now realise in 2024 and as a gay man), there is a lot for me to learn .. and that I thank you and many others for.
As I watch this video I’m reminded of how a female friend, in her own car, would place her Hang-Bag in the passenger footwell….except when I or maybe other ‘males’ travelled with her. We were then handed the Hand-Bag ‘to hold’… I confess that it took me years, yes ‘years’ to place the Hand-Bag in the footwell and not carry it on my lap, just how she treated her ‘doggies’… grrrr.. travelling with her, one had to carry her small dog as well..
I could bang on about this.. but as you mentioned in another article Tom, this is all ‘female centred behaviour!’ More and more I understand how deep this behaviour runs in my veins, my psyche. Not wanting to offend 'her' .. grrrr AND giving up ‘being a Hand-Bag’ myself for women.. or anyone.. that’s what I’m finding a lot.. There is good stuff to learn here…
A gay friend in Sydney told me, 90’s.. how a well-known woman was married to a business man and when he couldn’t attend functions that she was invited to, she would take one of her gay friends with her.. he was aptly nicknamed ‘the hand bang’.. true story… At the time my mate and I just laughed it all off… us silly gay boys can be silly.. I tell you… now, after four years of MRA ‘blogs’ I’m seeing it very differently..
Thank you Tom.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Esther_Vilar
I read her "Manipulated Man" many years ago. It had a formative effect on me, to say the least.