Men’s Issues – Mice, Men and Disposability

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“Men should be like Kleenex. Soft, strong and disposable.”  Cher
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The world can be divided into two camps, one camp believes that men are disposable and the other believes that men deserve the same choice and compassion that is afforded to women.  The first camp is almost everyone and the later is as rare as a purple sheep.  Almost everyone believes that men “should.”  You know, men should die in wars, men should die at dangerous jobs, men should work full time to provide for a family, men should be the protectors etc.  Whether it is the media, our legislatures, our universities, our entertainment industry, our courts or the general public, the default assumption is that men are disposable. Men SHOULD ignore their own needs and focus on the needs of others. It is so much the default that most people have never considered anything else.  It’s like asking a fish about water.  It’s what he lives in, what he is swimming in and his entire world revolves around it.  Try telling mr fish that he has water all wrong and see what happens.  Even more interesting is to try and tell someone from the “men should” MAD (Men Are Disposable) camp that men deserve compassion and choice.  You will usually get fireworks since these concepts go against the grain of men being disposable. You don’t offer compassion to a plastic fork, or a paper towel. Those are disposable.  Just toss them out.  You don’t give those who are disposable choice and compassion.

Take Hillary Clinton as an example.  It was the default cultural belief of the disposability of men that allowed her to say “Women are the primary victims of war.”  If anyone had compassion for men they would have cried out at the insensitivity and hatred that such a statement carries as it ignores the pain and suffering of millions of dead men.  Just imagine Bill Clinton saying “Men are the primary victims of breast cancer.”  He would take a terrible political beating.  Even though he is using the same basic idea as Hillary, that those left behind are the ones who are the primary victims.  Somehow it just won’t fly if men are those who are being left.  Why  not?  Because men are seen as disposable and conjuring up compassion towards them is beyond most people.