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The Bias We Pretend Doesn’t Hurt Boys (part 2)

Why the Double Standard?

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Tom Golden
Dec 02, 2025
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The Double Standard: Why Girls Get Protection and Boys Get Silence

Here is the contradiction at the heart of our culture’s approach to children:

When a stereotype harms girls, we mobilize.
When a stereotype harms boys, we rationalize.

Look again at the math example.
The message girls heard—“girls aren’t good at math”—was subtle and narrow, yet the response w…

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