Excerpt Swallowed by a Snake - Anger, Grief, and Men
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Watch now (2 min) | These Cubeo men found ways to express their grief. Our culture would likely judge them harshly for it. But are they grieving? I say yes, and doing it well. What do you think? Men are good, as are you!
One of the many reasons why women must not be allowed entry to the 'men's house'; they are frightened by male anger, male grief, male sickness and when women are present the male urge to protect females means the male need to express anger and grief and be vulnerable and weak when sick is suppressed. Yet again, men suffer so that women do not. Sorry girls, you're not welcome in the men's house.
People are always nagging men to express their emotions. Men truly expressing their emotions is frightening. Not in a violent way, but like a storm. Nobody really wants to be around a man expressing emotions. It's not pleasant to watch. What people want is for men to do a toned down version, like weeping, a tissue dabbing at the corner of the eyes.
One of the many reasons why women must not be allowed entry to the 'men's house'; they are frightened by male anger, male grief, male sickness and when women are present the male urge to protect females means the male need to express anger and grief and be vulnerable and weak when sick is suppressed. Yet again, men suffer so that women do not. Sorry girls, you're not welcome in the men's house.
People are always nagging men to express their emotions. Men truly expressing their emotions is frightening. Not in a violent way, but like a storm. Nobody really wants to be around a man expressing emotions. It's not pleasant to watch. What people want is for men to do a toned down version, like weeping, a tissue dabbing at the corner of the eyes.
Ritual, it's important.