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Roger Sterling's avatar

Seems to me that many women have killed the golden goose. Thus we see so many contemporary men deciding to go their own way and actually are managing just fine. Not so much for women who are alone and can’t understand why they can’t get a husband they believe they were entitled to. It is a very sad state of affairs. The good news is that women are starting to see the failure that is feminism and are adjusting accordingly. A laconic observation that would take volumes to fully articulate. Pax

Tom Golden's avatar

Killed the Golden Goose indeed! Well said.

Eisso Post's avatar

Very sad it really is. Some men think we can win by staying away from women. But for many men that causes too much pain. And the battle is not between men and women; it’s between those who don’t want war between people because of their biological identity (black or white, man or woman, gay or straight, cis or trans) and those who do.

Syngle Economycs's avatar

You make a wonderful point, Eisso.

I always wonder who has the most to gain from racial and gender division as well as the isolation it produces.

How can we focus our energy on those forces instead of continuing to make each other the enemy?

Pistorius's avatar

We must also remember that a significant proportion of these men/women battles involve children - and in the current toxic and dysfunctional state of institutions, "justice", and "law enforcement" the men will be the only ones protecting the children, at their own cost; although the survival of the one may often depend on the survival of the other, but men mostly don't get that choice.

Boris A. Doyle's avatar

Women need to feel pain so they'll do something about it.

I'm all in favour of our society failing and leaving us back on the Stone Age with Stone Age rights.

Women might care enough about white guys when they see hurting white guys is hurting themselves.

Alex Patrick's avatar

It ain’t the Golden Goose, no such thing, it’s the goose that lays the golden eggs.

Roger Sterling's avatar

Splitting hairs...but thanks for the input

PostPlandemicChronicles's avatar

Well said Roger. As the saying goes, too little too late.

John's avatar

I’m very right and think eg there would be no western civilisation without white men and the M/f division of function that operated until the 1960s but this bleating is pathetic in my view and unbecoming to the notion of maleness you purport to believe in.

Roger Sterling's avatar

Ok simp. I was making an observation and putting out a view…not complaining one iota. That and opinions are like ass holes…everyone has one. I guess your reading comprehension isn’t that strong.

Conrad Riker's avatar

They're still slaughtering the golden geese.

Men are still the only group that are net lifetime tax payers.

As ever, women put men in a double bind. Submit as a husband to incessant shit testing and fits of hysteria. Or pay taxes without representation at the kitchen table.

PAULA ADAMS's avatar

Hating and controlling men is an extension of rebellion against the authority of God himself .

Michael K.'s avatar

Yes it is. Their war really is with God, who they resent because He is masculine and the Father.

This is why in both modern times and the ancient world, most of the anti-God cults and 'religions' were cults of the 'Divine Mother' or 'Earth Goddess' or 'Divine Feminine'. Women, and many men, have a strong urge to worship a female divinity. The Hebrew tribes constantly were regressing to the 'divine feminine' just as Solomon did, under the sway of his many (many) 'wives' or concubines.

Stephen Hosking's avatar

Christianity has traditionally been “gynocentric” in putting women’s needs above men’s, and even viewing women as more spiritual beings. A woman could complain about her husband, and expect to be able to divorce him for adultery, but not vice-versa (technically yes, but in practice he was expected to blame himself, and “forgive”).

This gynocentrism in life was balanced by “patriarchy” within the church structure, ie. male only priests/pastors. This balance prevented women’s excessive emotionalism from dominating the teachings and practice of the church.

However, in recent decades the churches have also invited women to enter, and then dominate, the clergy and the structure of the church.

The result has been the traditional gynocentrism on steroids, plus women’s emotionalism turning Christianity into another well-funded “social justice” institution.

In this new female religion men, especially white men, and their obvious needs and unjust suffering, are derided and scorned as much as in society at large.

Christianity has been turned into a goddess cult, just like the earlier ones you describe!

As an RCC I can confirm that it’s same here. The teaching of the all male clergy cannot be changed, but the feminists have whinged for fifty years, the clergy have submitted to women’s complaints (as always), and we now have parallel power structures dominated by lay women, who do what women in power (“leadership”) do everywhere.

Kovin's avatar

I'm surprised there has not been a spin-off cult based on Mary.

Just like a fan-favourite character from a movie gets their own TV show (like the Lois spin-off from Superman, She Hulk etc).

A cult based on the 'holy mother' archetype would be a winner with the 'boss babe' set - with some imagined other life of radical female activism after giving birth to the son of God.

Even Mary could 'have it all'!

Kovin's avatar

I'm surprised there has not been a spin-off cult based on Mary.

Just like a fan-favourite character from a movie gets their own TV show (like the Lois spin-off from Superman, She Hulk etc).

A cult based on the 'holy mother' archetype would be a winner with the 'boss babe' set - with some imagined other life of radical female activism after giving birth to the son of God.

Even Mary could 'have it all'!

William Gruff's avatar

Blocked for god bothering.

Jamie's avatar

I found it interesting reading about women that hit men, first, and then the Shame, etc., etc., that follows if a man hits back!

I know about this 'rule' but what ever happened to, "defending oneself'?

The right to defend oneself!

But I hear in my head the voice of Gynocentrism: but why didn't the man walk away then?

Which now a days I can think: why didn't she walk away instead of hitting him then?

I'd never thought about this being such a double standard.. consciously.. anyway...

Carl Dari's avatar

The first sentence shows that the true power is with the women. They are allowed to hit a man without consequence and to be protected against any hits by a man. A sexist privilege sheldom mentioned. Feminism is just the opposite of the truth.

Alex Patrick's avatar

What about Muslims who stone women?

Mark newfie Adams's avatar

If Democrats win, men will continue to be at best ignored, at worst vilified and discriminated against. How could a white male vote for a party that does this as a matter of policy. You may have answered that question. Thanks

Mark newfie Adams's avatar

I look forward to reading your next post. I think it would be really helpful to offer "men only" classes in how women compete and fight in the workplace. Then train them on how to counter it. You may have eluded to something similar.

Tom Golden's avatar

Thanks Mark. Yes, the last post in this series, which is about 2 or 3 posts away will focus on what men can do and offer specific ideas of how to counter this nonsense.

jesse porter's avatar

What appears as nonsense to men (me) appears as obvious to women. There seems to be opposing realities at work here.

Michael K.'s avatar

Yes it seems quite an evolved collective strategy to me, nothing at all like nonsense. Deliberate and calculated to achieve its purpose.

I mean, it works, doesn't it? First-class citizenship for them, like some nobility really, and the leavings for us. Government, courts, police, schools, the corporations . . . everybody seems well in on the grift, the automatic grift, like some Great Joke that we're always the butt of. Serfdom amidst 'democracy'.

Mankind on the run, whether in the workplace, the family, or on the street. Functions like some great union, except we pay the dues instead of them. More like a gender mafia, on second thought.

Gregory Taylor's avatar

Mike Buchanan on women's effect on organisational performance. https://youtu.be/rMujCcG0iRY?si=c7DSMPQEItjMpuiS

Eisso Post's avatar

Don’t forget that men, to be attractive, must appear to have fit genes. By looking good or at least strong, or by being wealthy. Even men who inherited their wealth appear to have fit genes because their parents had.

When men are interested in a woman, they must make that clear without embarrassment, but also without appearing too needy. Both embarrassed and needy men are suspected to score low in the dating market and having to blame themselves for it.

Least of all, men must complain about personal troubles. Here is where feminisms success comes in. Even where feminism makes men’s lives hard, men must pretend, often even to themselves, it doesn’t bother them or they can conquer those troubles without any problem.

Even within the MRM many men often prefer to focus on legal issues and be silent on loneliness, dating and mental health; even trying to silence men who rock that boat. The law can be a strong adversary that even a strong man can’t beat. Being unsure about how to approach women and other more psychological problems are lethal for showing your fitness. That’s why there are so many female antifeminists who dare to say a lot more than most men.

Male feminists are the most traditional men of all when they throw other men under the bus to please women.

Mark Dent's avatar

You nailed it, Tom. That is why men's rights is the most hopeless cause a human can choose to fight for. The black community were hailed as heroes and recognized for their courage even when their advocacy failed. Men who take a stand for men and boys are often mocked and undermined by the very demographic they are fighting for.

I wrote a poem about this very issue a few months ago when our Australian government caved in to the latest feminist hysteria and demonstrable lies about domestic violence being worse than it has ever bene in Australia. They handed over billions of dollars to the rabid haters who marched in our city streets chanting hatred of men and waving posters and flags filled with bigoted lies.

And then the Prime Minister scolded men yet again for being so disrespectful and threatening to our women. We were lectured at football matches. It was Orwellian.

Anyway- here's one of hundreds of poems I write to save my own sanity.

The Trap

Go on

Do it

Call out their lies

Expose their fraudulent actions

The crocodile tears

Feigned distress

The blatant bigotry

Ridiculous hyperbole

And abuse of the

Almost reflexive male

Response to women in tears

Demanding they do something

To ease their agony

Do it

I dare you

And just you see

What happens

This latest tsunami of accusatory

Language

And lust for victimhood

Is a model of behaviour

Acted out in homes

Across the country

Every day and night

I’m upset

I’m offended

I’m in need

Do something now!

Make me feel better

Perhaps some cash

Would do the job

A little retail therapy

Would take my mind off the pain

And possibly cause me to

Think about forgiving you

At some stage

Our sex life might even resume

Should you prove your love for me

Give me stuff

Lots of stuff

And

I’ll be happy

For a while

And the men always fold

Buy the flowers

The shiny diamond rings

Apologise for things they never did

Or meant

Or said

Just to bring peace

And stop the nagging

And the threats

And the tantrums and tears

This is all we are seeing today

Played out on a national stage

Simply on a larger scale

The mostly male governments

Always fold

Just like most husbands and boyfriends

And give them

Lots of stuff

Lots and lots

Just to silence them temporarily

To sate their insatiable appetites

Shut down their ceaseless babbling

But back to the dare

Call them out

And just you see what happens

Before your first sentence

Of opposition to their stated claims

Is spoken

They will hear your tone

See your body language

And with the speed of a striking cobra

Know

They must shut you down

Denigrate

Humiliate

Belittle

Besmirch

Your character

Your motives

Your integrity

No matter how conciliatory

Softly spoken or reasonable

Your words

If you oppose the narrative

You will lose your job

If a media figure

And even if not

You will be smeared and branded

Cancelled and flung

Into the dark pit of obscurity

And irrelevance

For daring to question the narrative

Let alone

Expose it for the deceptive

Hateful lie it is

Every waking moment

Following your cancellation

Will be akin

To the shunning lepers experienced

In a different place and time

So, listen to their demonstrable deception

Swallow the rising bile

Smile nod

And move on with your day

Like all compliant members

Of the underclass

Have done throughout human history

Or scribble your rage on paper

Or a computer

Like Winston Smith

Just a tiny rebellion in your

Own bedroom

Or dining room

But never share it

Or discuss it

This is life in Melbourne

Australia in 2024

Don’t be fooled by the shining sun

Or enviable lifestyle

It comes at a cost

Don’t ever push back

Accept the lie

Believe the lie

Support the lie

And you will be just fine

And you will be called a good man

A friend to women

A denouncer of his own unfortunate

Chromosomes

He acknowledges the original sin

Of being born a male

6/5/24

Tom Golden's avatar

Love the poem. It says it clearly and powerfully.

Michael K.'s avatar

That's ok I like 'hopeless causes'. Been doing this one a long time.

It's a challenge for sure. Opposing feminism and gynocentrism is like opposing the entire world. That's a worthy fight in my book. They will lose.

Phillip Hickox's avatar

Mark, like you, I despair about what the future holds.

Michael K.'s avatar

It's difficult I admit, but try not to despair. That's what the enemy wants. Don't give them that satisfaction.

They hate seeing us content and strong.

Stephen Baskerville's avatar

Great picture. The part on divorce could be expanded. For example, a plausible case can be made that, when children are involved, women are the moving party in 100% of divorces. I document this in my book, partly based on the book of the late Robert Seidenberg, whom I think you knew, Tom.

Belle Moon's avatar

This is why I'm more than happy to speak up against prejudice and injustice against males! I have the privilege to do so as a female. I don't understand how people constantly say "speak against injustice and use your priviledged position" but that only applies to their agenda and bias. Demonizing an entire group of humans is always wrong, and that includes males.

Allen Frantzen's avatar

A thoughtful, comprehensive post, Tom. Every time I thought I might be seeing some kind of upside to the situations you describe, you offered another complication. The comments are instructive and useful in pointing to ways in which men are caught in double-binds. Looks like men are damned, or at least culpable, no matter what we do. Given that, perhaps a man has to decide to act for himself, in his own interests, and weigh the consequences and risks of doing so against the security of deeply-held convictions.

Tom Golden's avatar

Yes, it ain't easy being a man! And feminists have noted and used that. grrrrr

Derpetology101's avatar

Something that most women simply refuse to acknowledge is women can safely abuse men, physically, because the vast majority of men will not defend themselves. They may retreat, or just take it, but they will not hit back. Perversely, rather than see these abused men as above the fray, they see them as feckless passes who deserve scorn and abuse.

Tom Golden's avatar

So true Derpetology101. Is your audio ok?

Derpetology101's avatar

It's weird. I can listen to your older videos. But not the newer ones. I'm getting a new phone tomorrow and maybe that will help, somehow

Lawrence DeMarco's avatar

This article is fantastic. I posted it on the front page of Menandboys.net. Thank you for your great writing.

Michael K.'s avatar

Thank you for your efforts.

Allen Frantzen's avatar

Great photograph, by the way. Says it all.

Tom Golden's avatar

It's courtesy of AI......smile....

Sadredin Moosavi's avatar

This is an important and powerful piece. It affirms much of what I have observed in my 55 years of life. What is interesting, however, is how it actually is an argument for Sharia law seen in Islam. The tenets of Sharia law can be summarized as follows:

1. The character of women is inherently suspect and harmful to men such that the following precautions are required.

A. It is the woman's job to preserve her honor, not the man's. If she sleeps around or is even accused of such conduct, there are lethally bad consequences.

B. The word of a woman is worth half that of a man...thus an accusation of a crime by a lone woman goes nowhere unless she has another's testimony on her behalf.

C. Woman are obliged to prevent temptation of men via their looks by remaining modestly clothed outside the home with a hijab to prevent exposure of their figure and most of their skin.

2. Women are not allowed to work outside the home preserving the man as provider.

3. A man can discipline his wife, like a child, with a "spanking" so long as the switch used to do so is no thicker than his finger.

4. A man can divorce a woman at any time simply by declaring, "I divorce thee!" 3 times in the presence of a male witness.

5. A man can take on up to 4 wives and as many concubines as he likes provided each wife is given equal housing/resources support.

6. Children are the property of the husband in the event of a split in the marriage.

7. Women's education is limited to the elementary grades.

All of these rules/policies seem harsh and harmful to the "rights" of women. Yet...each is clearly designed to address the harmful manipulative conduct that feminist women exploit against men. it makes sense that a desert society where social cohesion is important and excess resources are limited would need to deal with women's harmful conduct by preserving harmony in the home. Sharia law does this by accurately assessing the worst traits of women, those celebrated and weaponized by feminists, and seeks to neutralize them. It does give men too much power and ability to abuse THEIR situation to some degree...but clearly Sharia law was designed to reign in the misconduct to which women seem prone. Thoughts?

Tom Golden's avatar

Very interesting. Makes me wonder how they deal with relational aggression? One example was "The word of a woman is worth half that of a man" which would cut down of false accusations. Contrast this with the hard push for "believe the woman" so popular in feminist circles....

Sadredin Moosavi's avatar

Agreed. It seems they have chosen to deal with relational aggression by completely neutering women's ability to engage in it....but have left the ability of men to do so in place. This is not an idea situation...but....the feminist abuses in Western society are sufficient that it is time to consider mechanisms to address the problem even if women object. Contrary to what gynocentrism preaches...the universe is not designed to benefit exclusively women and other people ALSO have rights that must be respected. Heresy I realize. Still...the Sharia law comparison is instructive and should serve as a warning to feminists that there is a price to be paid for failing to deal with women's deficiencies in personality and conduct just as there are for men.

Meyrick D'Souza's avatar

Quick question... I thought there were more female university graduates in Saudi Arabia than male... given point 7 in your list, is this not true?

Michael K.'s avatar

I am a follower of Christ, but Islam is very realistic concerning female nature and behavior.

Jamie's avatar

Goodness, living in Europe and when I first glanced at the picture.. I thought the man on the left wearing the blue suite was Emmanuelle Macron from France. 🤦‍♂️ 😂

Michael K.'s avatar

LOL do you mean that dood that married somebody's grandmother?

Jamie's avatar

🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️

Jorge's avatar

Because if a man stands his ground….

He is immediately: “ toxic…. mysoginistic ….. insecure …

immature ….. and ANY number of derogatory terms ..”

which he has mo defence against….

Better to shutup and have another beer…..

Philip's avatar

I started by my mid 20s, decades ago simply telling my wife "Nope, it aint gonna be like that.'