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I have been screaming about this for years. Since I was a child, starting with my mother ALL my abusers have been women. I can't get any support whatsoever. Men are not taken seriously. I will be reaching out to your email. Thanks

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Yes, there are many of us who have been doing this for years and it hits deaf ears. Gynocentrism.

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This is a huge problem, made incalculably worse because women are aware they often get a free pass to do violence, particularly in gynocratic cultures like America.

Because the police, courts, and the State in general likewise are feminist -- or simply do not hold women accountable for their malevolence -- females often use the State to do their violence for them, typically via the jail and prison systems, which are a BIG business in the U.S.

The best, but by no means guaranteed, solution is avoidance of interactions with females. This is the choice I have made, though when I lived in the U.S. even this did not protect me from multiple false accusations, including by total strangers. One such incident resulted in false imprisonment. Women are often unstable and dangerous. Proceed at your own risk.

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Even the research is starting to see what you are describing. They call it 3rd party abuse. It's when a woman falsely accuses the man of DV and tells the police this is the case and at that point the police assume she is telling the truth and actually continue the abuse assuming he is guilty as charged.

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Eric Berne wrote about this in his book "The Games People Play."

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I have made the same choice. It's just safer to be alone as sad as that decision was.

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I suffered domestic abuse.

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Blessings. It's a very tough road for men to face abuse and not get any support, compassion or even understanding.

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Oct 8Liked by Tom Golden

Of course women are violent especially after they’ve tried their other methods of control with taunts, tears and tantrums. They can be downright vicious.

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And the silent treatment, sarcasm, false accusations, backstabbing, exclusion, gossip..... :>)

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and then they play the victim!

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Oct 7Liked by Tom Golden

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I will never forget the intensity and range of emotions I experienced the last time that I hit a woman.

I know now, as I knew then, that it doesn't matter:

That she had attacked me first, verbally and emotionally;

That she was the first to begin shouting and intimidating;

That she was much bigger and much stronger that I;

That she she hit me first; or,>unquote

https://www.certifiedmale.com.au/issue9/lasttime.htm

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Interesting link, thanks.

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There was also that Australian woman who killed 8 kids.

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Oct 7Liked by Tom Golden

Just check all the academic research ever.

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Yes, and start with the ancient bibliography by Fiebert https://www.humanrightsaction.org/violence/Fiebert/english.html

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Lack of accountability tends to lead to greater and greater misconduct. What is the solution? We need to impose a zero tolerance policy on all misconduct by women. We need to be public and loud about the incidents and make clear that we expect ALL women to take action to put a stop to the problem as they have made demands on men to stop OUR misconduct.

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A quick look at you tube will provide you with literally dozens of examples of murderous, vicious females committing the most vile crimes against men and chikdren. Here are some examples.

Killer Daughter Thinks She Got Away Until Boyfriend Turns Her In (youtube.com)

Dad Realizes His Daughter Is Actually The Killer - YouTube

Why did this Mother React Strangely to Her Daughter's Death? (youtube.com)

She seemed like a star daughter. She ended up planning her parents’ murder. (youtube.com)

Killer Realizes She's Been Caught After Cutting Baby Out of Victim's Stomach (youtube.com)

Babysitter Laughs After Killing Baby & Taking Lifeless Body to McDonald's (youtube.com)

The Moment A Killer Mom Realized She's Been Caught (youtube.com)

There are many more, Tom. It makes an absolute mockery of all of the domestic violence campaigns funded by our governments and promoted by radical (is there any other kind? ) feminists.

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In his interview with The Tinmen, Don Dutton discusses why evidence or data that does not match a person's previously held convictions is ignored or not believed.

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The majority of the victims of violence committed by males are boys and men AND the majority of the victims of violence committed by females are also boys and men.

When boys and men are the favoured target of violence for all it's no surprise they would be the preferred scapegoats.

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Men simply refuse to stop this insanity by going MGTOW and so, they will continue to whine and complain but do ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to change their circumstances.

Therefore I must conclude that men are ok with their fate. Our good friend Paul Elam said it best, “there are no victims, only volunteers”.

Maybe you men will finally hear it this time?

No. You won’t.

Access to a vagina actually has more power than your own freedom! You care nothing about your brother, your father, your uncle, your son etc. and continue to allow females to RUIN relationships for everyone, including themselves!

You trade your actual freedom for

5 minutes in bed with a female!

Is it worth it?

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Men simply refuse to stop this insanity by going MGTOW and so, they will continue to whine and complain but do ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to change their circumstances.

Therefore I must conclude that men are ok with their fate. Our good friend Paul Elam said it best, “there are no victims, only volunteers”.

Maybe you men will finally hear it this time?

No. You won’t.

Access to a vagina actually has more power than your own freedom! You care nothing about your brother, your father, your uncle, your son etc. and continue to allow females to RUIN relationships for everyone, including themselves!

You trade your actual freedom for

5 minutes in bed with a female!

Is it worth it?

You get what you allow-

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