Let me also share a real life story of how a woman approached her marriage being very critical about what her husband brought, both positive and negative, to the marriage but showed a complete lack of awareness of the state of her OWN accounts in this matter. In this case, the woman had met her husband when both were working at relatively low level jobs at a museum. They fell in love and lived together for a couple years before getting married. The husband came from a very Irish Catholic family, had completed his college degree and have moved on to a good job. The wife was entering her 7th year of her 4 year degree at an expensive private college where she was failing to make progress toward her degree due to her inability to focus on completing her course work compared to spending time planning the elaborate wedding and the various other excuses she would use to stretch her 4 year degree out for 16 years!
While the husband's family were very close and typical of families with close friends who would visit, stay for parties and stay over night, the wife came from a very dysfunctional family rocked by divorce and remarriage with the father of the pride being so socially problematic that he had to be seated across from an empty seat and next to the priest to try to keep him out of trouble. Because the wife did not want their marriage to be dominated by her husband's close family she insisted that they build their home on the far side of the city from his parents and siblings, 1 hour and a long distance call away.
After 6 months of marital "bliss" with him working and she fiddling around on her degree, she discovered that his family had been undergoing some counseling due to issues related to a grandfather and some misconduct in years past. The wife then panicked thinking her husband, who would party and drink, would become a pedophile like the grandfather was alleged to have been and began sabotaging the marriage. When the time came to move in to their new home, she refused to move in and went and got her own apartment behind her husband's back. She then claimed that because of his failure to stop all drinking of alcohol as she had DEMANDED and the "problematic" history of HIS family, she would not continue in the marriage. She further refused to acknowledge that SHE also was on the mortgage for the house that had just been built and that the builder had a right to expect she would fulfill her financial obligations on the house whether or not she ever chose to move in. She whined that it was "unfair" that she should be held financially responsible for the contract because she was having marital problems. About this time, the husband's parents home suffered a major water leak while they were on vacation and became uninhabitable for several weeks. The family moved to a motel, but were not allowed to bring their dog with them. The son with the new house gladly took in the family dog. Despite claiming to love dogs herself, the wife was OUTRAGED that the husband would take in the family dog in this emergency situation without asking her permission to bring the dog into a house she refused to move into and which she claimed she had no financial obligation to pay for!
To make a long story short, the marriage got annulled with the husband keeping the house and mortgage (he had a full time job) and each got to keep their assets and private debt. It should be noted that he won in this matter because even at that time her college loans exceeded the mortgage on the house AND his college loans. In my discussions with the wife, she refused to see that her problematic family and massive college debt made her a far less attractive spouse than his family's problems made him. I was denounced as a misogynist for even suggesting this.
About 3 months after the divorce was finalized the now ex-husband already was dating another person whom he later married. The level of jealousy and anger from his ex-wife resonates still 25 years later. The ex-wife has never remarried and cannot find anyone to date. She is the bitter childless "cat" lady that JD Vance talked about who substituted a dog for the cat. Score?
This video is very insightful about the transactional nature of how women approach marriage. It is indeed time that we, and women in particular, are forced to admit this. The fact that women are finding their marriage choices reduced in quality and quantity says a great deal about how men are being harmed by society...but also about how women have made themselves increasingly unworthy of consideration for marriage. Let's face it...if all a man wants from a relation is sex, he can get that far more cost effectively and safely in terms of long term burdens by simply going to an actual prostitute. Once that need is met, a man actually looking for a long term relationship with a supportive and complimentary partner quickly realizes that most women, and nearly every feminist, is simply not desirable. As was pointed out, men seem to be more capable of being happy sans a wife than women are not having a man to take care of them. So...women better figure out right quick that they are, to be blunt, replaceable in virtually every aspect of society. Time for women to get a major attitude adjustment.
Great piece. I knew a couple whom the wife, a hard core card carrying feminist, took a job as a government bureaucrat in order to support her husband's more soft edged career. They ultimately divorced and I really believe the reason was (consciously or unconsciously) she resented that he did NOT take charge of things, financial or otherwise. Personally, I believe prostitution is heterosexual sex distilled to it's most basic level. Go to the website "The Honest Courtesan" for some thought provoking ideas on that.
Tom,by 2030 it's estimated that over 45% of women between the ages of 19 to 44 will be single and childless.
It's estimated to be more!
They've been sold a myth that they can have it all and are now realizing that with perceived financial success and with competing with other women for another equally successful high value man with the biggest options to reject them that there's always been less financially successful men with the quality to be loyal devoted partners that have been invisible to them.
They'll be forced to become introspective when such a critical juncture challenges them to take a serious look at themselves and the unrealistic expectations they'd set for themselves that leaves them, single, childless and embittered.
I can go to town on this but I'll stop here.
This video is some serious food for thought worth reviewing and researching!
The Empowered Ones take most of men's education and employment slots . . . by fiat of their 'minority status' . . . and so men are so broke, and often homeless that the last thing on their minds is 'dating' or marriage.
Who suffers. The grrls of course. Raging because having tossed men out of remunerative employ, there aren't enough rich men to scam, I mean marry.
Women Hardest Hit. It's good to be old, I am so out of this place soon. lol
When I read this book I was struck how sometimes we need to be weary for what we ask for.
Paul Elam is very strong on the idea that we speak our truth, that we know our truth and this book highlights this when things change, the dynamics can change in a relationship.. how things can change quickly despite that we might have ignored things or even noticed them but if we just drift along then a 'whammo' of destruction can happen and this is what you guys are pointing out in this conversation of Women continually having a go at men for the last X years..
Shortened version and very problematic behind the scenes but a female acquaintance married a guy who managed a Store and but, she was more up the ladder than he.. but they got on.. he loved her and would do anything.. but the 17th doll came home to roost when she realised that her passion for a business proposal was far greater than his, despite him standing by her side and willing to go into huge debt with her.. but non the less she decided that because of his lack of Passion they should divorce.. it was madness. Pure madness.. She went from bad to worse, partly of her own doing but also suffered a Riding accident which left her with partial brain damage and then one guy she was newly involved with was a scam artist.. the now ex husband still loved her, still assisted where he could but in the end.. it was over.. mental problems, refusal to listen and people slowly left her alone.. I thought the original man was the best. A bloke, loved the ladies but loved her the most. Got on with people higher and lower than him.. but this so called Passion or lack of it in her eyes and it was all over...
Let me also share a real life story of how a woman approached her marriage being very critical about what her husband brought, both positive and negative, to the marriage but showed a complete lack of awareness of the state of her OWN accounts in this matter. In this case, the woman had met her husband when both were working at relatively low level jobs at a museum. They fell in love and lived together for a couple years before getting married. The husband came from a very Irish Catholic family, had completed his college degree and have moved on to a good job. The wife was entering her 7th year of her 4 year degree at an expensive private college where she was failing to make progress toward her degree due to her inability to focus on completing her course work compared to spending time planning the elaborate wedding and the various other excuses she would use to stretch her 4 year degree out for 16 years!
While the husband's family were very close and typical of families with close friends who would visit, stay for parties and stay over night, the wife came from a very dysfunctional family rocked by divorce and remarriage with the father of the pride being so socially problematic that he had to be seated across from an empty seat and next to the priest to try to keep him out of trouble. Because the wife did not want their marriage to be dominated by her husband's close family she insisted that they build their home on the far side of the city from his parents and siblings, 1 hour and a long distance call away.
After 6 months of marital "bliss" with him working and she fiddling around on her degree, she discovered that his family had been undergoing some counseling due to issues related to a grandfather and some misconduct in years past. The wife then panicked thinking her husband, who would party and drink, would become a pedophile like the grandfather was alleged to have been and began sabotaging the marriage. When the time came to move in to their new home, she refused to move in and went and got her own apartment behind her husband's back. She then claimed that because of his failure to stop all drinking of alcohol as she had DEMANDED and the "problematic" history of HIS family, she would not continue in the marriage. She further refused to acknowledge that SHE also was on the mortgage for the house that had just been built and that the builder had a right to expect she would fulfill her financial obligations on the house whether or not she ever chose to move in. She whined that it was "unfair" that she should be held financially responsible for the contract because she was having marital problems. About this time, the husband's parents home suffered a major water leak while they were on vacation and became uninhabitable for several weeks. The family moved to a motel, but were not allowed to bring their dog with them. The son with the new house gladly took in the family dog. Despite claiming to love dogs herself, the wife was OUTRAGED that the husband would take in the family dog in this emergency situation without asking her permission to bring the dog into a house she refused to move into and which she claimed she had no financial obligation to pay for!
To make a long story short, the marriage got annulled with the husband keeping the house and mortgage (he had a full time job) and each got to keep their assets and private debt. It should be noted that he won in this matter because even at that time her college loans exceeded the mortgage on the house AND his college loans. In my discussions with the wife, she refused to see that her problematic family and massive college debt made her a far less attractive spouse than his family's problems made him. I was denounced as a misogynist for even suggesting this.
About 3 months after the divorce was finalized the now ex-husband already was dating another person whom he later married. The level of jealousy and anger from his ex-wife resonates still 25 years later. The ex-wife has never remarried and cannot find anyone to date. She is the bitter childless "cat" lady that JD Vance talked about who substituted a dog for the cat. Score?
Misogynist 1: Narcissitic Feminist 0
That's a tough one and shows the importance of being aware of a potential spouses family history. He is quite lucky to have gotten out of this mess.
Agreed. The amazing thing is that SHE things she is the victim in this situation!
This video is very insightful about the transactional nature of how women approach marriage. It is indeed time that we, and women in particular, are forced to admit this. The fact that women are finding their marriage choices reduced in quality and quantity says a great deal about how men are being harmed by society...but also about how women have made themselves increasingly unworthy of consideration for marriage. Let's face it...if all a man wants from a relation is sex, he can get that far more cost effectively and safely in terms of long term burdens by simply going to an actual prostitute. Once that need is met, a man actually looking for a long term relationship with a supportive and complimentary partner quickly realizes that most women, and nearly every feminist, is simply not desirable. As was pointed out, men seem to be more capable of being happy sans a wife than women are not having a man to take care of them. So...women better figure out right quick that they are, to be blunt, replaceable in virtually every aspect of society. Time for women to get a major attitude adjustment.
Great piece. I knew a couple whom the wife, a hard core card carrying feminist, took a job as a government bureaucrat in order to support her husband's more soft edged career. They ultimately divorced and I really believe the reason was (consciously or unconsciously) she resented that he did NOT take charge of things, financial or otherwise. Personally, I believe prostitution is heterosexual sex distilled to it's most basic level. Go to the website "The Honest Courtesan" for some thought provoking ideas on that.
Tom,by 2030 it's estimated that over 45% of women between the ages of 19 to 44 will be single and childless.
It's estimated to be more!
They've been sold a myth that they can have it all and are now realizing that with perceived financial success and with competing with other women for another equally successful high value man with the biggest options to reject them that there's always been less financially successful men with the quality to be loyal devoted partners that have been invisible to them.
They'll be forced to become introspective when such a critical juncture challenges them to take a serious look at themselves and the unrealistic expectations they'd set for themselves that leaves them, single, childless and embittered.
I can go to town on this but I'll stop here.
This video is some serious food for thought worth reviewing and researching!
Much appreciated and thanks for sharing.
Regards,
Brian Bradshaw
Republic of Trinidad and Tobago.
Caribbean.
Thanks Brian. Glad you found it useful.
Forced to be introspective. Women. On this planet.
Don't guess I will hold my breath waiting on that.
The Empowered Ones take most of men's education and employment slots . . . by fiat of their 'minority status' . . . and so men are so broke, and often homeless that the last thing on their minds is 'dating' or marriage.
Who suffers. The grrls of course. Raging because having tossed men out of remunerative employ, there aren't enough rich men to scam, I mean marry.
Women Hardest Hit. It's good to be old, I am so out of this place soon. lol
A female friend advised me to read this book: Summer of the Seventeenth Doll
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Summer_of_the_Seventeenth_Doll
An Australian play.
I will let viewers read the wikipedia entry.
When I read this book I was struck how sometimes we need to be weary for what we ask for.
Paul Elam is very strong on the idea that we speak our truth, that we know our truth and this book highlights this when things change, the dynamics can change in a relationship.. how things can change quickly despite that we might have ignored things or even noticed them but if we just drift along then a 'whammo' of destruction can happen and this is what you guys are pointing out in this conversation of Women continually having a go at men for the last X years..
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Shortened version and very problematic behind the scenes but a female acquaintance married a guy who managed a Store and but, she was more up the ladder than he.. but they got on.. he loved her and would do anything.. but the 17th doll came home to roost when she realised that her passion for a business proposal was far greater than his, despite him standing by her side and willing to go into huge debt with her.. but non the less she decided that because of his lack of Passion they should divorce.. it was madness. Pure madness.. She went from bad to worse, partly of her own doing but also suffered a Riding accident which left her with partial brain damage and then one guy she was newly involved with was a scam artist.. the now ex husband still loved her, still assisted where he could but in the end.. it was over.. mental problems, refusal to listen and people slowly left her alone.. I thought the original man was the best. A bloke, loved the ladies but loved her the most. Got on with people higher and lower than him.. but this so called Passion or lack of it in her eyes and it was all over...
Sad story and one that is sometimes heard in variations on the theme.
Yes, very sad story....I can only say Wow followed with 'how bloody tragic'....
I love it when Janice laughs at Paul saying, "will we give out some awards', then Tom laughs.. it cracks me up..