At first, I thought how glad I am to be gay. But guess what. Lots of men, gay or straight, are no better than these women. They're playing games, not seeking mature love (let alone the sanctity of marriage and family).
There’s much to unpack in your comment, Jamie, but I’ll do my best.
It’s true that many people reject marriage or even a “relationship” because of what they learned at home as children. But it’s true also, and for the same reason, that other people—and I include myself—long for marriage or at least for an enduring “relationship.” This becomes more and more unusual, because both good and bad marriages “run in the family.” And once the generational chain of happy marriages has been broken, it’s not easy to restore—certainly not in a hedonistic society that values personal “autonomy” over everything else.
Marriage is not merely a “relationship” at all. It’s an institution. And the same is true even of courtship. Both are governed not only by transient emotional and physical relations but also by moral and legal expectations. But underlying all mundane functions of married life, from earning the money to making the beds and sending the children off to school, is a spiritual dimension. Marriage began eroding for several reasons, including industrialization and secularization, in the late nineteenth century—that is, long before anyone proclaimed a right to “gay marriage.”
I’m troubled, moreover, by the notion of marriage as an arrangement that’s defined primarily or even entirely by the personal gratification of adults (children being bystanders in debates over the rights of adults). This turns marriage—an institution—on its head in any historical or cross-cultural perspective. More specifically, it turns marriage from moral and spiritual commitment into personal entertainment. Not surprisingly, therefore, it turns divorce from the lesser of two evils (at best) into psychotherapy.
The wages for the sin of feminism is selfish, self-centered loneliness. Simple and to the point. Funny thing is all of this can be corrected by returning to traditional values ....which worked since the dawn of man. But then again, what do I know - I'm part of the patriarchy.
give me a timestamp and I will have a look. I thought nearly every one of them was just sad. They had bought and drank the feminist koolaid and were now seeing the price they pay.
In Hakomi Therapy this is an important tell -- you look for contradiction between the thing said and the facial expression, and that's where you know there is work to be done.
right and you don't know someone till you know them. And socializing takes social skills and those are acquired with practice, and trial and error. those are among the things missing or greatly reduced. laced in with all of this is social awkwardness, "sex education" coming from little movies on pornhub, the internet being more accessible than anything in real life except maybe air, etc
I've never thought this until I read your comment: there should be Biology classes (penis in vagina can mean a child will be born nine months later, type of thing) and some basic Behavioural classes.....
I remember having sex education and when it came to menstruation we were told by the (fucked up) teacher, "that is women's stuff and not mens stuff'.. I thought, 'this is fucked'.. I want to know it all. but wasn't not told.. then one heard it out in the school yard...
I remember my own mother saying to me and my two brothers (they were teenagers then and I just arriving at teenage years and this is a very long story so it is short) that probably life would have been better if she had married the sheep farmer rather than our father, the alcoholic. I realise that it was hard for my mother but when she said this, I thought to myself: "but I wouldn't have been born". That I found the worst thing to realise and also that sometimes it is not necessary to speak everything out in front of ones children (if able that is)... It took, and is still present, a lot of work to stop the thought, "the grass is always greener..... ".. it is so destructive when such things are voiced in front of children...
He's very good at condensing these kids of men/ women topics into short (often hilarious) videos. I love long form discussions and lectures, but I know most people only have short attentions spans. His channel has blown up fast which makes me feel all warm inside.
how many Americans know what a duvet cover is? And why wouldn't she show him? Also, how you eat your steak is not a measure of character. However, the way one treats animals is most surely a measure or indicator of character. But to mix that with "medium rare is OK" is ridiculous.
with the steak.. what gets me in the end was a woman suggesting how one should eat their steak while most Feminists object to being oppressed by men!!!!!
these would be the same women that would say Trump is a mysogynist.. if he told them they aren't allowed to eat their meat how they want it...
the other thing is that you shouldn't sleep with the opening at your neck.. just in case you didn't know that bit of vital information on this troubled planet...
I have five sons, as I have mentioned. One of them has a wonderful, younger, Hispanic girlfriend who has traditional family values. One just got a gf at age 26 after years of trying. And two are still hoping and praying. They are all good guys with jobs and all are good looking ! One looks like a model. They don't want women who have been with a lot of guys or have kids already, so that limits them. But otherwise they just want a normal woman, not a feminist or nutcase. But today's women have ridiculous expectations and want to provide nothing to the relationship.
One other bit about lonely women - esp young women.
The written and unwritten social rules now state that nearly all approaches to women by men are prohibited. Any expression of affection (for example, in a workplace, where people are most of their waking hours) is immediately construed as harassment, or potentially so.
Smiling is harassment. Chatting a woman up is harassment. Social interaction has been legislated out of safe existence. And women RELY on men to approach them, being too chicken or too haughty to do so themselves.
And what a bunch of dyke separatists have done is cock block men from asking women out, or making it such that only the most brazen will do so. One motivation beneath all this is the dyke separatists claiming all the pussy for themselves, and inventing “political lesbianism.”*
Many if not most men are terrified of approaching women and feminists have made them so. If you read carefully the coverage of my own metoo incident, the “victims” were mostly women claiming that I liked them! So this sends a message to all men in the community — stay away.
Don’t ask a girl out — she might think you’re a rapist. This is now the social norm.
____
*Can you imagine a campaign directed at heterosexual men, “suck cock for the cause”?
The writing was on the wall with the development of the Sexual Harassment industry, which went very quickly from "wanting to educate men" to punishing men by losing their jobs and their livelihoods.
Then Meetoo# happened to shame and humiliate men and ruin careers and reputations.
All the while, Carceral Feminism has been quietly changing laws and how sexual assault trials are being conducted to increase the conviction rate of alleged offenders.
An allegation of sexual assault is now enough to incarcerate the alleged male perpetrator.
Another excellent video. It should be noted that most of these women appear to be physically more than less attractive so it's not as though they are hideous and would drive men away. Their problem is most demonstrably their personalities. They all see a relationship is about the perfect man giving the woman everything she wants in a perfect way...but there is clearly not even a realization that they have to also GIVE something to the relationship that meets the man's interests, goals and needs. I can see why no man has great interest in these women. What is the solution? Frankly, maybe Western women should be required to spend a year as an exchange student living with Muslim families in traditional rural communities in Afghanistan, Iraq or Iran. What they needs is a massive attitude adjustment and recalibration of their actual value to men in society. We are seeing a tiny version of this with the hysterics of women encountering fair competition with male "trans" athletes showing them how artificial their athletic accomplishments actually are. Having to learn that, most of them have no value to men beyond sex given their current personalities would be hard and painful lesson, but would do them immense good. They should be thankful that personality is something that can be improved with age and experience...unlike physical attractiveness.
Here in Germany, we have a Ministry for Women, which the feminist minister is now renaming the Ministry for Society. This ministry has launched a campaign against loneliness. But it is not aimed at men who have to sleep alone under the bridge because they have lost their home and family. Nor is it aimed at abandoned fathers who are no longer allowed to have contact with their children according to the courts. It is aimed at older women, like the minister herself.
So yes, the phenomenon of feminist loneliness is large and widespread.
Hi Paul, if you click on his name at the start of the post you go to his youtube channel. The name of the channel is "manosphere" or maybe "manospherepodcast." Hard to tell exactly when it was made but I think it was about a month ago.
blah blah blah! Good comedy. It’s the future for women courtesy of the feminist movement and their unrealistic expectations of men and primary focus on themselves.
I still am a chef, but at home, on much simpler terms. Blending flavors is tantric! On the "red flag" list should indeed be anyone who cannot blend flavors -- that is, if sex is your thing. If sex is not your thing, you can stick to ketchup. It's pretty spicy and contains red dye made from insect shells.
And yes this is about being a CULTURED PERSON. The 2018+ girlfriend was Asian as in born in Asia and did not know how to prepare rice. That's correct. So there is a deskilling situation here, and also, there is the notion that doing anything in the kitchen will lead to barefoot and pregnant.
At first, I thought how glad I am to be gay. But guess what. Lots of men, gay or straight, are no better than these women. They're playing games, not seeking mature love (let alone the sanctity of marriage and family).
As a gay man I can back you up on that one Paul.
I've said it and heard from gay men, that they don't want a relationship because their parent's relationship was so bad!
I've even heard, "I don't want a relationship because my mother suffered"!!!
There’s much to unpack in your comment, Jamie, but I’ll do my best.
It’s true that many people reject marriage or even a “relationship” because of what they learned at home as children. But it’s true also, and for the same reason, that other people—and I include myself—long for marriage or at least for an enduring “relationship.” This becomes more and more unusual, because both good and bad marriages “run in the family.” And once the generational chain of happy marriages has been broken, it’s not easy to restore—certainly not in a hedonistic society that values personal “autonomy” over everything else.
Marriage is not merely a “relationship” at all. It’s an institution. And the same is true even of courtship. Both are governed not only by transient emotional and physical relations but also by moral and legal expectations. But underlying all mundane functions of married life, from earning the money to making the beds and sending the children off to school, is a spiritual dimension. Marriage began eroding for several reasons, including industrialization and secularization, in the late nineteenth century—that is, long before anyone proclaimed a right to “gay marriage.”
I’m troubled, moreover, by the notion of marriage as an arrangement that’s defined primarily or even entirely by the personal gratification of adults (children being bystanders in debates over the rights of adults). This turns marriage—an institution—on its head in any historical or cross-cultural perspective. More specifically, it turns marriage from moral and spiritual commitment into personal entertainment. Not surprisingly, therefore, it turns divorce from the lesser of two evils (at best) into psychotherapy.
The wages for the sin of feminism is selfish, self-centered loneliness. Simple and to the point. Funny thing is all of this can be corrected by returning to traditional values ....which worked since the dawn of man. But then again, what do I know - I'm part of the patriarchy.
Great first sentence! Concise and true.
My first reaction to the desperate and crying women was pity. I had to urge to help them.
I can't help it, it is my reaction to the damsel in distress situation.
But then I remembered that dudes are evil patriarchs and hate women - so say the feminists.
So I feel slightly better now as I am supposed not to care I guess.
Tom, what was your reaction to the first aging women wanting a relationship but feeling alone?
give me a timestamp and I will have a look. I thought nearly every one of them was just sad. They had bought and drank the feminist koolaid and were now seeing the price they pay.
1:14 and probably 0:26
The one at :26 was odd. She was clearly smiling the entire time she lamented her sad story. Did I miss something. Seems very odd to me.
In Hakomi Therapy this is an important tell -- you look for contradiction between the thing said and the facial expression, and that's where you know there is work to be done.
But guys -- if you met one of those women and said hey let's hang out, what do you think she would say?
That she could get better than me? Just a guess.
right and you don't know someone till you know them. And socializing takes social skills and those are acquired with practice, and trial and error. those are among the things missing or greatly reduced. laced in with all of this is social awkwardness, "sex education" coming from little movies on pornhub, the internet being more accessible than anything in real life except maybe air, etc
I've never thought this until I read your comment: there should be Biology classes (penis in vagina can mean a child will be born nine months later, type of thing) and some basic Behavioural classes.....
I remember having sex education and when it came to menstruation we were told by the (fucked up) teacher, "that is women's stuff and not mens stuff'.. I thought, 'this is fucked'.. I want to know it all. but wasn't not told.. then one heard it out in the school yard...
I remember my own mother saying to me and my two brothers (they were teenagers then and I just arriving at teenage years and this is a very long story so it is short) that probably life would have been better if she had married the sheep farmer rather than our father, the alcoholic. I realise that it was hard for my mother but when she said this, I thought to myself: "but I wouldn't have been born". That I found the worst thing to realise and also that sometimes it is not necessary to speak everything out in front of ones children (if able that is)... It took, and is still present, a lot of work to stop the thought, "the grass is always greener..... ".. it is so destructive when such things are voiced in front of children...
I believe that women are way more often looking at greener grass than men. Especially ruminating is stronger with the women.
Tom have you encountered Hoe Math yet?
He's very good at condensing these kids of men/ women topics into short (often hilarious) videos. I love long form discussions and lectures, but I know most people only have short attentions spans. His channel has blown up fast which makes me feel all warm inside.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tyf4GXT_oWA
Great stuff! Love this guy! Thanks.
Thanks for this. Will have a look.
Like it.. like how he condenses.. thanks...
I can’t put a duvet cover on tf, I just use it as is and I’m happy af with that
how many Americans know what a duvet cover is? And why wouldn't she show him? Also, how you eat your steak is not a measure of character. However, the way one treats animals is most surely a measure or indicator of character. But to mix that with "medium rare is OK" is ridiculous.
with the steak.. what gets me in the end was a woman suggesting how one should eat their steak while most Feminists object to being oppressed by men!!!!!
these would be the same women that would say Trump is a mysogynist.. if he told them they aren't allowed to eat their meat how they want it...
that is very important and something I overlooked..
some of those duvet's are tricky I tell you.
the other thing is that you shouldn't sleep with the opening at your neck.. just in case you didn't know that bit of vital information on this troubled planet...
otherwise, sleep well...
:) :)
the next time I have a lady friend in my apartment I'm going to ask her to restring my guitar and if she can't, that's it.
I have five sons, as I have mentioned. One of them has a wonderful, younger, Hispanic girlfriend who has traditional family values. One just got a gf at age 26 after years of trying. And two are still hoping and praying. They are all good guys with jobs and all are good looking ! One looks like a model. They don't want women who have been with a lot of guys or have kids already, so that limits them. But otherwise they just want a normal woman, not a feminist or nutcase. But today's women have ridiculous expectations and want to provide nothing to the relationship.
PS
One other bit about lonely women - esp young women.
The written and unwritten social rules now state that nearly all approaches to women by men are prohibited. Any expression of affection (for example, in a workplace, where people are most of their waking hours) is immediately construed as harassment, or potentially so.
Smiling is harassment. Chatting a woman up is harassment. Social interaction has been legislated out of safe existence. And women RELY on men to approach them, being too chicken or too haughty to do so themselves.
And what a bunch of dyke separatists have done is cock block men from asking women out, or making it such that only the most brazen will do so. One motivation beneath all this is the dyke separatists claiming all the pussy for themselves, and inventing “political lesbianism.”*
Many if not most men are terrified of approaching women and feminists have made them so. If you read carefully the coverage of my own metoo incident, the “victims” were mostly women claiming that I liked them! So this sends a message to all men in the community — stay away.
Don’t ask a girl out — she might think you’re a rapist. This is now the social norm.
____
*Can you imagine a campaign directed at heterosexual men, “suck cock for the cause”?
The writing was on the wall with the development of the Sexual Harassment industry, which went very quickly from "wanting to educate men" to punishing men by losing their jobs and their livelihoods.
Then Meetoo# happened to shame and humiliate men and ruin careers and reputations.
All the while, Carceral Feminism has been quietly changing laws and how sexual assault trials are being conducted to increase the conviction rate of alleged offenders.
An allegation of sexual assault is now enough to incarcerate the alleged male perpetrator.
Another excellent video. It should be noted that most of these women appear to be physically more than less attractive so it's not as though they are hideous and would drive men away. Their problem is most demonstrably their personalities. They all see a relationship is about the perfect man giving the woman everything she wants in a perfect way...but there is clearly not even a realization that they have to also GIVE something to the relationship that meets the man's interests, goals and needs. I can see why no man has great interest in these women. What is the solution? Frankly, maybe Western women should be required to spend a year as an exchange student living with Muslim families in traditional rural communities in Afghanistan, Iraq or Iran. What they needs is a massive attitude adjustment and recalibration of their actual value to men in society. We are seeing a tiny version of this with the hysterics of women encountering fair competition with male "trans" athletes showing them how artificial their athletic accomplishments actually are. Having to learn that, most of them have no value to men beyond sex given their current personalities would be hard and painful lesson, but would do them immense good. They should be thankful that personality is something that can be improved with age and experience...unlike physical attractiveness.
Here in Germany, we have a Ministry for Women, which the feminist minister is now renaming the Ministry for Society. This ministry has launched a campaign against loneliness. But it is not aimed at men who have to sleep alone under the bridge because they have lost their home and family. Nor is it aimed at abandoned fathers who are no longer allowed to have contact with their children according to the courts. It is aimed at older women, like the minister herself.
So yes, the phenomenon of feminist loneliness is large and widespread.
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Ministry for Society! I am betting we will be seeing more and more of those very soon...
Tom, who is the filmmaker? What's the name of his site? When was the film produced?
Hi Paul, if you click on his name at the start of the post you go to his youtube channel. The name of the channel is "manosphere" or maybe "manospherepodcast." Hard to tell exactly when it was made but I think it was about a month ago.
blah blah blah! Good comedy. It’s the future for women courtesy of the feminist movement and their unrealistic expectations of men and primary focus on themselves.
They have so many filters on they look like animé.
Cool that you were almost a chef! I didn't know that. No salt shaker???? lol Some folks need to go to gratitude school.
I still am a chef, but at home, on much simpler terms. Blending flavors is tantric! On the "red flag" list should indeed be anyone who cannot blend flavors -- that is, if sex is your thing. If sex is not your thing, you can stick to ketchup. It's pretty spicy and contains red dye made from insect shells.
And yes this is about being a CULTURED PERSON. The 2018+ girlfriend was Asian as in born in Asia and did not know how to prepare rice. That's correct. So there is a deskilling situation here, and also, there is the notion that doing anything in the kitchen will lead to barefoot and pregnant.